Building Your Profile

We can help you be more effective in your search.

Blessed Dates is devoted to lasting marriage.

For the “true” Christian (scripture often speaks of false Christians so we say that with confidence) we truly believe you can find your soulmate online. In fact, we know you can.

But finding one quickly? That’s another matter.

We suggest the following: If you can begin by conquering two rather simple but somewhat-difficult things, it won’t take you very long to find a good Christian mate that really excites you.

Only two things…?

No, but you must START with these two, to get LASTING results.

One, you must be honest with yourself, and about yourself. Everybody has shortcomings. You’ve got to drop the idea that you must present a "perfect picture" of yourself, or attempt to be “more” than you really are. Most people do this naturally and it’s a hard habit to break. Just be you. Use current pictures. Don't airbrush. Let someone take one with a digital camera, right off their cellphone. Just make sure you put up as many as you can to show different aspects of yourself. Don't be so "pretty" or "handsome" in every shot, show off a little fat, a bit of thinning hair! Why on Earth would you do that? Because. It’s much better and a more effective strategy to be pleasantly surprised, in real life, that someone’s photo wasn’t as good online as they are in person, than “disappointed” that they don’t measure up to the picture you saw. This happens so much, and I'm sure that's not surprising to you. It's an instant and painfullly real dampener to a good initial “spark” which is so important to get a burning flame. So resist temptation. Put in a casually good shot, but steer clear of “glamour shots” or photos that make you look fake. And never, never use someone else’s photo. Not only is it grounds to be removed from the website – but it’s a dead giveaway when others see these things. You’re fooling nobody with glamour shots; in fact it screams, “I don’t feel attractive enough to just post a regular photo.” Just as posting no photo screams, "I'm hiding something!"

Number two but even more importantly: You must be uncompromising in your desire to be equally yoked in your walk in Christ with your future spouse.

What do we mean by that? We believe you should avoid mismatching yourself and settling for people who aren’t as interested in Christ and God’s Word – as you are. Don't settle.

If you can follow these two essential rules, your search should not take as long as it normally would, and should end in a successful match.

Next? Write that profile and take no prisoners.

Show who you are and what you want right up front.

Is it important to you that your future spouse attend church with you? Are you looking forward to a mate who works out with you at the gym? Then say so!

This is the point at which you want to make it extremely clear about the kind of person you are looking for in your heart. Don't be apologetic in your writings about yourself in terms of the little things, and the big things, that you would expect or desire from a future mate. And don't sugarcoat your own little quirks or downright difficult features - without giving away too much. There's a fine line between being honest and "TMI" - "Too Much Information". That can be a romance killer. If you want advice on what is, and isn't appropriate, we have people in our chat area on a regular basis to help you with hints, who are happy to read your profile and give you feedback.

We can help you be more effective in your search.

Blessed Dates is devoted to lasting marriage.

Beyond being a "dating site", Blessed Dates is a marriage site. We're devoted to minimizing the time, pain, trouble, and cost of finding your future soulmate for a perfect match that will last the test of time.

One way we do that is by cleaning out our database on a regular basis. Why do we do that? So that our numbers are real. You might notice that all the “famous dating websites” will tell you they have millions of members. Millions. You'd think there were millions there, active all the time. Their numbers of marriages are mere fractions of this total, and we never hear about how many of these “happy” couples wind up divorced. Or, in quoting millions of “members” we know that many of them are ‘come once and gone’ or have found a girlfriend, boyfriend, or even have gotten married – they just haven’t eliminated them from their database. (Nor do they tell you about how many single, working people have been taken by criminals, for lots of money, by say, Nigerian money scammers. Or identity thieves. It’s uncountable how many broken hearts or divorces have been a result of their websites, of course, or even mention the presence of dangerous long-term predators. Worse, what is never discussed is how many miserable marriages with two disappointed Christians, formerly desperate single folks, who married too quickly and now, are stuck and unhappy. Yikes.

But don’t be discouraged! These things can be changed, and it’s why we’re here.

For certain, bad stories seem to outnumber the good; but there is a large and growing number of people who do marry online, successfully and happily. You may be the next one! If it’s what you want, we know you can do it, just follow a few simple guidelines.

The first is to get an attitude that because you’re a Child of God, you can expect favor – and through prayer, He will grant you your wish for a good man or woman in Christ.